Why Women Sometimes Unknowingly Say and Do Things That Can Destroy a Relationship

 

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What happens when a woman goes through a difficult episode with a man?

She keeps flipping out...

This is how the it usually plays out...

A woman finds herself in a  complex and difficult circumstance with a man...

She doesn't know why he's acting the way he is....

Then she attempts to do what she thinks is the correct thing but it doesn't work...

She then feels stuck and  finally flips out.

It's no wonder so many women are living a life of  hushed anguish and anxiety.

In other words when women drive themselves completely bonkers by flipping out over and over again, it messes them up entirely.

And it doesn't stop here...

Many times, under such a predictament a woman unwittingly does and says things which drive a man further away...

Here are the two most common options women take...

1- They first try to persuade a man.

2- And if this option is ineffective, they try to squabble their way into his mind.

Often women mistakenly assume that if they can just describe their perspective or view to a man he will completely understand...

Unfortunately,  It doesn't work that way.  In most cases, you can never make him understand your situation. And worst of all, the harder you try, the further you will drive him away.

And when persuading him doesn't work, many women argue or fight.  And eventually when things get really bad, they use accusations and guilt to achieve their goal.

Here is a description of such situation...

Your man all of a sudden is becoming detached and indifferent.  And of course, you immediately assume that maybe he is planning to leave you. You first try to figure out why he is getting distant, but things aren't making any sense, as a result you flip out.

Then you attempt talk to him about it, you say things like - Honey! I don't know why you are  rejecting me? And acting the way your are, what have I done? Are you leavme? Have you found someone else? Let me know?  Tell me the truth!

And you still don't get the answers you need and then you tension and anxiety start turning into anger. You believe that you deserve answers from him...

And as a result you say things like...

I am so fed up from not getting answers from you. You aren't pulling your share of the weight in the relationship. I feel like I am the only one that cares and doing all the work.  And your selfish and only care about yourself. 

This is a fundamental mistake which can destroy the basis of a relationship. When you use this method a man only feels vilified and get even more detached  to avoid more ultimatums.

It's crucial to understand that you can't force him to understand your perspective of things.  And you are using a totally pointless strategy that will not work.

Fortunately, there are much better alternatives.   There are things you can do and say which will instinctively make a man want to be more forthcoming and unreserved about their feelings.  And give you all the love you need and be devoted to you for the rest of his life.

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Facebook Infidelity - Harmless Flirting Online Can Lead To A Full Blown Affair

By Jason Dee Dickson

 

Being a victim of a cheating partner it is indeed a painful experience. What makes it even a more haunting one is when your partner has been doing the wrong deed right under your nose, or in some cases, right in your computer. To avoid feeling stupid and sometimes, feeling responsible for keeping a blind eye to your partner's illicit Facebook activities it is indeed a good idea to explore more about this field.

There are millions of people engaged in Facebook each second. You can't blame it! It is indeed addicting to interact with people. There's a famous saying, "No man is an island", and this constant need of human beings to socialize and connect to its own specie dates back to early human civilizations.

Prehistoric men and women used to hold storytelling sessions with their tribes around bonfires during nightfall. This is part of their civilization. As humans, it is within our genetic make up to belong and be accepted in a circle, a group, a society.

With today's technological advances, the early storytelling rituals have evolved into an easier, faster and more convenient way of communication- sans bonfires and tribe leaders. Facebook has changed the course of sociology by simply reinventing the modes of long distance communication.

How powerful is Facebook?

Facebook defies distance. It doesn't matter if your friend is in Greece and you live in a small town called Wallah-Wallah, you can still gain access to his daily endeavors. Facebook defies time. It allows for two people, who have not seen each other for decades, to reconnect and update each other.
Facebook defies privacy. Today, we can tell exactly what one person is thinking, we can identify his whereabouts and even his most embarrassing photos on the internet can now be spread like wildfire. Thanks to

Facebook photo-tagging.

Unfortunately, because of these conveniences, we also need to pay a price. Facebook can also defy fidelity in a relationship. By simply clicking on old flames, we can get ourselves in a whole lot of trouble.

The works

It begins with a simple click of a button. You check your Friends Request List, and find out that your old classmate added you as her friend. Facebook then asks you, do you "Confirm" or "Ignore"? Many people do not understand that this is the most critical point in one person's social and emotional life. By confirming a friend into one's Facebook account, you are actually allowing this person to gain access to your life.

So which button do you click? How can you spare yourself from a potential damage to your current relationship? How can you tell if it is safe or if it's swimming in unchartered waters? These are just questions that will inevitably run into your mind at this point. And usually, if not all the time, we stick to our biological make up. We hit Confirm!

The next thing we know, we are chatting with the new and improved versions of our grade school seatmate who used to tease us about our high pitched laughs back then. And perhaps during that time the teasing seemed annoying, if not merely platonic, today these kinds of "harmless" teasing can seem endearing.

Thus, a little flirtation can go on. Taking a tour down memory lane as we rekindle with past crushes, ex love affairs, high school flings, college quarterback stars and even that hot ex-coworker whom we never got to date because we used to be too self conscious back then, can be truly very engaging.
Today it can be high school, college, or small town Temecula all over again. Although this can be good news to our social life, this is definitely bad news to our current relationships. Why? It is simply because it creates a bigger avenue for reconnecting with people we don't want our partners to know about.

Facebook and its relation to cheating

In the science of emotional cheating the concept is not focused on sexual activities. Emotional infidelity is actually more rooted on the side of emotional closeness. The desire of one person to feel more connected and comfortable with a person instead of his or her partner defines the gateway to all infidelity cases. Facebook is a tool that opens that gateway even wider.

If we open our eyes we can actually realize the many points of conversation there is available for our partners to discuss with their controversial Facebook friends. They don't even need to feel that uncomfortable nervousness in initiating conversations because Facebook gives them the privilege of a non personal approach.

This means that talking to your crush in person, for example, is even more threatening to the ego than sitting behind a computer and typing in your pick up lines. Internet communications makes you less vulnerable than personal correspondence.

Hence, writing compliments and flatteries on the comments box of one's Facebook photo or clicking on the "Like" button under his or her status can definitely open a whole can of worms in an existing relationship.

So how do we know which actions are safe and which are deal breakers? Good question.
First of all you need to ask yourself. What will I benefit from this? What is my intent? Say you are on the verge of accepting a friend request from an ex girlfriend. You need to be able to assess if your partner is okay with the idea and if you and that ex have clearly established a suitable closure to your romantic relationship because ever engaging in a platonic one. If not, then this may not be a good time to be clicking that "Confirm" button.

If we turn the tables around and you are contemplating about adding your ridiculously good looking next door neighbor into your Facebook friends, what is your intention behind this idea? Do you really just want him to be your friend? Or are you making things harder for yourself if he will begin flirting with you in Facebook? If so then better just skip him and go on to searching for your long lost relatives instead.

How do you know which comments are appropriate?

Again think first before you say what's on your mind. Do you ignite a fire by making flirty and sexually-provoking remarks about a friend's Beach Vacation album, such as "I'd like to get dirty on the sand too, LOL! Hahaha!"?

Or as a respect to your current partner, would you rather just write down neutral and safe comments such as "The weather looks nice out there!"? These are the simple yet very powerful things that one needs to consider before creating any emotional damage into your relationship.

What to do when Facebook flirtation gets initiated by other people?

Communicate with your partner! Inform him or her right away because sooner or later if that issue would be raised in the future and you have failed to let your partner know it can be used against you. Always make sure that your hands are clean in every situation.

What To Do If Your Partner Is Having An Affair?

Time To Act: Enough is enough.

Stop being the victim, stop living in self-denial, stop living in pain, stop living in agony and stop living in self-pity.

Be bold and take the first step in confronting the truth even if the truth is ugly and not what you want to know.

Now is the time for you to act. Whether you want to confirm your fears or catch your partner or spouse cheating on you with evidence, I can help you.

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Great Valentine's Day Gifts for Boyfriends

Great Valentine's Day Gifts for Boyfriends

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By Marilyn Rae

It is especially hard when you want to gift him with a present that expresses just how special he is to you. Selecting a gift may depend on how long he has been your boyfriend, if your relationship is relatively new than you might want to give him a gift that shows you like him, if your relationship is more advanced your gift should show just how you feel. Coming up with a Valentine's gift that is right for the current state of the relationship can be very troubling.

One the biggest problems are that women and men have different views points on the significant of Valentine's Day. Women put a great deal of importance into the romantic significance of the day, where as men view it more as a day of giving flowers and candy with a fancy card.

If the relationship is rather new, choosing a Valentine's Day gift for your boyfriend might be a challenge. One of the best ways to select a gift in the early stages of your relationship is to carefully consider your boyfriends interest. If he has a favorite sports team he follows consider tickets to a game or get him team shirt or hat so he can proudly show his team loyalty.

Instead of trying to find a romantic gift that would be symbolic of your feelings, try giving a gift that your boyfriend would appreciate for any occasion. More than likely he is not expecting a gift that is a gesture of love so a simple gift with his interest in mind would be the most appreciated. Gift subscriptions to magazines that he would enjoy or gift cards to his favorite store are other great examples of gifts to give.

Regardless, selecting the perfect gift for your boyfriend needs to reflect how you feel about him. He will appreciate your gift more when you take the time and put forth the effort in selecting a great Valentine's Day gift for him.

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Love Is An Irresistible Desire To Be Irresistibly Desired

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Do you remember the first time you saw them? Can you remember the way you felt when they looked at you for the very first time and smiled? Think back to the times when you couldn't wait to see them again. Can you remember all the time you spent planning your limited time together and how you took pride in not only the way you looked but what you did? The sun shined a bit brighter. The moon was a bit more blue than it has ever been and the very stars in the heavens were there for you and only you to make a wish but this time you didn't have to because it had already come true.

 

Love is the most natural high the mind, body and spirit can experience. Like a drug, we crave the way it makes us feel not only for the extraordinary emotion we feel but for the fact that we are loved right back. There is nothing in the world that can compare to it. Men and women have died in vain because of their forbidden love. The history books and literature throughout the globe are filled with love stories unparalleled with any work of fiction. There are no characters, only people who have felt the same thing you have including heartbreak and the feeling of emotional misery when it is not only taken away but stripped from their very lives never to see their lover again.

 

Poetry, music and artwork are filled with its beauty. "Shall I compare thee to a summer's day?" Famous epic battles have been fought in the name of love and glory. Men have sailed the seven seas to conquer those that oppose their queens and mother's of their homeland in the name of love. Like the old expression says:

 

"Love conquers all..."

 

When you look at love in a historical aspect, it really puts not only your current situation in a different light, but it also helps you to realize that your heartache is probably the same as someone else thousand's of centuries old though the situation and circumstances are different. Do you think the mistakes you might have made have not been made by so many throughout history? Are you an exception? With a heavy sigh, I proclaim "No at all." Sure you are special, but you are not an exception even though you might feel so alone in your heartache that you choose to draw inward and not let anyone in.

 

Think of it this way, I bet there have been many that have shown up at someone's castle or plantation under the cover of night and threw a pebble at the window to get the attention of a lover...just to say "I love you so much...I had to see you." DO you really think your situation is new? Do you feel all alone in your quest for getting your ex back? Not even close. There have been those that love and lost and there have been those that never loved...which would you want to be?

 

We learn from our mistakes but the key is to remember what those mistakes were. How do we know what was a mistake or not? How do you know that by doing nothing that your ex isn't at home praying that you show up and wrap your arms around them, look them in the eyes and say "I was a fool. I am not half the man/woman I am when I am with you." It sounds so perfect. We see the movies. We read the books. We hear stories all over the Internet on "How to get your ex back." The secret is only $29.95 with no money back guarantee. I love the one that says "Have you ex back in 3 days or less" for $49.99. I assume this is a book about kidnapping because let's face it; it's not going to happen.

 

All good things take time. Like I have always said, imagine your love between you and your ex like a gourmet meal. I don't want a microwave love affair. Who really craves the instant meal that all we have to do is add hot water. I want something that blossoms and takes time to prepare so that we can both enjoy it in the future; like a fine wine.

 

The secrets of love have been the same for centuries and that secret is this.

 

"If someone doesn't love you, no matter how hard you try to make them love you, it will almost always fail."

 

To all my seasoned veterans out there, you know exactly what I am talking about. Years ago, when I wanted to catch the eye of a certain beauty, I would do anything I was good at. It could be my sense of humor or even singing her a song. When all else failed, I figured "YOU MUST TRY HARDER!!". Oh the pain, suffering and humiliation I could have saved throughout the years. Men tend to have a competitive streak in them and when all else fails, be the exception.

 

To my male audience out there, can't you remember the times you would tell yourself, "I just have to try harder and stick this out. She will come around." Every little glance my love interest would show me I thought it was only for me. No matter if they looked at me and was thinking of someone else, I WANTED IT so BADLY to be for me. I would try so hard that finally I was so aggravated, not at them, but at myself that I usually ended up being their "Best Guy Friend". Ahhhh those were the days. Let me tell you, there is nothing harder than loving someone in secret and them confide in you about someone they love. You sit and smile and you look into their eyes as if to scream and wave your arms yelling "HEY!! I AM RIGHT HERE!! I LOVE YOU ....CAN'T YOU SEE ME!!! I LOOOOVE YOU SOOOO MUCH!!"

 

There is something harder...much, much harder.

 

To those that have felt this after a relations hip has turned sour, I feel for you. I honestly do.

I felt this over 4 years ago. It goes something like this. How can I describe such pain? Well, let me try. Heartache is one thing but having your heart ripped from your chest and stomped on is another. Naturally after a breakup that was not that bad, one or both parties, with time, might have possible regrets about breaking up. The minutes seem like hours and the hours seem like days. The phone never rings. The more you want the time to pass, the day drags on and the nights are so much worse that I can't begin to describe it. The walls begin to close in. The thought of yesterday's hug, a lingering last kiss, their smell in a pillow, their clothes they left, their picture, the songs you hear are always about breaking up or things that remind you of them. I think we all can relate.

 

Are you ready? Here it comes..now brace yourself.

 

*deep sigh*

 

The phone finally rings a week later. You jump over the couch like a gazelle and say a mild "Hello..". 'Um..Hello Dave? Yeah...Hey, It's Oh hey, how are you? Um..I am fine. I have been thinking about you a lot. Really?; So Have I. The smile on your face begins to form because the conversation is going well...so you think. I really miss you (blank). I miss you too. The conversation falls silent as your heart begins to beat out of your chest. The smile and mod begins to loosen.

 

"Hey, I was wondering if you would like to..." but you are cut off to the sound of 'Dave, I wanted to tell you that I am seeing someone else and I thought you should know.'

 

The wind is knocked not only from your lungs but from your soul.

"Hello...? Hello...are you there....?"

 

"Yeah I am here...Hey um...look; The tears begin to form before you can get off the phone. "I gotta go ok?...I will talk with you soon."

 

"But Dave?....I wanted to (click) The phone falls silent as I fell to my knees. There are no words to describe the feelings I had but I can say this. The feeling robbed me of smiling for almost 5 months.

What do you do? What can you do? We all know that begging and pleading DO NOTHING.

 

Showing up at their door and acting a fool doesn't work. Getting drunk or high is just plain stupid when trying to get an ex back. You might as well say goodbye now because the only thing you will be doing is justifying why they left you in the first place. Life can be so cruel.

 

What WORKS?!?! This is no secret. This is not some magical formula. This is something that is so insanely easy to comprehend. It's 100% free and requires no special skill or technique. The secret is time. The time you have while away from your ex is so important. Not to cry and have a bloody fit but you get YOU together. Think of your life without your ex like getting a jig-saw puzzle and throwing it into the air only to be scattered into a million little pieces. All you have to do is SEPARATE YOUR pieces from theirs. (Start with the edges..it's easier ha ha) You are separating a couple to being once again single. I didn't say it was THAT easy nor did I say you would like it but it is a necessary step in getting YOU back. If you don't get you back first, there is no way you can get them back regardless of how you left. Once you can piece YOU back together you need to get adapted to your single life.

 

Letting go of your ex doesn't mean letting go forever. It hurts ladies and gentlemen. It hurts like hell but it is part of the healing process. You must go through it to become the man or woman you need to be and always wanted to be. Think of your breakup like a butterfly in its cocoon. You must transform into the person you WANT To be..NOT WHAT YOU THINK THEY WANT YOU TO BE!! HUGE DIFFERENCE. So many people out there believe that losing weight and going to the gym is going to get an ex back. Psssst....let me fill you in on something. ITS NOT!!! Sure you look better but if you were a moron when you broke up and you have not learned from your mistakes...you will be a moron who looks better. Make sense? I hope so.

 

Let go of the notion that they love you for your weight. It's only a small part of the entire you. Work on your heart. If you had issues communicating with your ex, learn from it. Sit down and make a list of the thing you feel YOU need to work on. If you get your ex back in the long run, you will not only be better off, but they will notice the change in you and it will only make you look GLOWINGLY better in their eyes.

**Remember**

 

People change ONLY BECAUSE THEY WANT OR HAVE TO CHANGE..not because you want them to.

 

If you work on the issues you had while in the relationship and start to learn from your mistakes, the chances are you may get a phone call down the line and get that chance you have been hoping for. Don't wait too long. Learn that life is to be enjoyed. Breaking up is hard but learning from a breakup can be so rewarding in the end. Just think, even if they don't come back...look at the person you have become not only for them but for yourself.

 

Learn to love them even if they aren't with you anymore. They will always be in your heart and just know that part of them made you want to become the person you have always wanted to be.

If that is not love...I don't know what is.

 

Take care and God Bless...

 

I love you all

 

SuperDave71

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